When Is Texting Too Much?

When is texting too much? I ask that question because I notice that some of my friends constantly like to text me instead of just calling and having a general conversation. Sure texting has it's purposes like; when you are at work and can't talk on the phone, at a mechanic's shop, waiting in line somewhere etc. but to text me where to meet to hang out, asking for detail directions or want to know my entire life; that's more like a phone call type of conversation not text messaging. I feel like some people can't have a interpersonal conversation on the phone or in person anymore.

Now people send break up text, proposal text, ask out on a date text. Personally I think technology is taking away that interpersonal connection that we used to have. I'm more of a in-person type of person rather than the text messaging all the time. If not in person then phone conversation is fine too, I can hear the person's emotion through their voice.

I think texting is too much if you are only communicating through text messaging and I mean the only means of communicating. If you can't pick up the phone once in a while and speak to someone then you may have a problem. Remember, we didn't have text messaging in the '90s or early 2000s so people actually spoke to each other face-to-face or on the telephone to communicate. We need to have that interpersonal connection back again.



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Image: http://cultech.library.cornell.edu/blog/

Trust, Honest and Truth

I wrote a similar post about this topic a while back and it still hold truth til this day. But could being too honest be harmful then good? sometimes I ask myself that only because I've been honest my whole life, sometimes it's really good and refreshing to others then sometimes they can't handle my too honest approach. In the past, I've been too honest about a situation or situations that had happened in my life but it ended up biting me in the butt because certain people that I thought I could trust would throw it in my face.

There were other times that I was too honest and most people love it. All in all, I expect others that I know to be honest with me even if it may hurt. But lately I've come across some people that are not honest or truthful at all and I have a problem with that. When you are not being truthful or honest, to me that comes off deceitful and I can't trust what comes out of your mouth as truthful. They want to feed you these lies so it'll make me feel better and also shut me up but little do they know it'll make it worse because I can't trust you now.

It takes me a while to trust someone because I've been lied to, cheated on and gotten stab in the back by people I cared about. So with that being said, I have a hard time trusting people. They say, "Trust is earned" I believe it 110%. A good friend of mine recently told me, "You have to guard your heart" meaning you have to guard it from people that would try to stomp on it without a care. I have a lot of heart to give and maybe that's my problem, it keeps getting stepped on by the wrong people that don't deserve my heart. "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" - Proverbs 4:23. I believe this scripture from the bible because it holds true to everything.

Even though sometimes my honesty can hurt people, I'm still going to be completely honest no matter what because honesty is the BEST policy and I'm not going to change a good trait. Later in life more people would eventually prefer the trust, honest and truth.


 
Source:
Bible - New International Version

Stereotyped

There are numerous stereotypes based on age, gender, race etc. The reason why I'm writing about this type of topic is because something was said, well, something was said a few times to me regarding my race. I'm going to tell a little of my background, I grew up in the inner city where there was drugs, gangs and prostitution down the street from my house. I even went to a really bad high school, they had mental detectors there everyday. The gang members would go into random classes and sit and the teachers would be too scared to say anything.

So I grew up the opposite of a lot of my friends, I would say that I spoke with articulation, I was reserved and quiet. A lot of my friends were loud, rude, ignorant and always wanting to start some trouble. Some of my friends would talk slang that I wouldn't understand. Even being around people with different cultures never made me think of them as those stereotypes. I actually like being around people of different cultural backgrounds because I can learn from them, learn their language, food and heritage.

I was always accepting of people because I always wanted to be accepted by society. Long story short, I was at work and I was asking a co-worker (A) a question, "hey are you okay?" I asked that because he was extra silly today. The other co-worker (B) jumped in and said, "he is crunk" I asked, "what is crunk?" he said, "are you serious?" of course I said, "yes I'm serious". This co-worker (B) said, "I'm not telling you, you have to be on the cool people's list" I ask, can you give me a hint?" he proceed to add me to the IM chat with another co-worker (C) that tends to joke around a little too much. (sorry about the letters I can't display real people's names).

Co-worker (B) told co-worker (C) that I didn't know what the word means, and co-worker (C) ask me, "are you sure you are black?" it struck a nerve with me because he assumed I supposed to know what that word means because quote, I'm black! I didn't know I supposed to know every slang word in the universe because the color of my skin, how naive of me. This isn't the first time this happened, I was called "white" by a so called friend of mine because I had some articulation in my conversation with him.

Also another so called friend was really shocked because I didn't speak slang or Ebonics. He assumed that since I grew up in the inner city I supposed to be ghetto and talk slang all the time. It's already hard enough to make a living in this economy let alone being judged on the color of my skin and be put into this huge stereotype.

Sure stereotype will probably never go away but come on, don't expect people to be the same, there are no two people that are exactly the same.

Happy Holidays

Today in the U.S. is Christmas so Merry Christmas to everyone and Happy Holidays. 2013 is going to be an eventful year, good and bad or indifferent. A lot has happen that past few months or so, the company I work for closed 23 campuses within 2 weeks and now they have to lay off 900 people by the new year... bummer  :( some unfortunately been laid-off and a lot of changes in my department will happen in January. I'm not looking forward to it because I don't know what's going to happen to me. In the past, I've worked at a company that was struggling because of the housing market, which is where their business thrived on. I was the last one to get hired and the first one to get fired, so I'm not too thrilled to hear the bad news before the holidays. I have faith and whatever happens, happen, it was meant to be.

On a better note, I started a little project that will grow into a bigger one later on, I will reveal much later in 2013. Some good movies will be coming out. I saw an official trailer of Man of Steel with Henry Cavill and I was in awe, I thought the first trailer was pretty awesome but this one was way BETTER. It looks like it will be better than the last Superman movie. Will Smith have a movie coming out called "After Earth" and that one looks good too. Will Smith son is in it too and he has to survive the much evolving earth. I think a new Mortal Kombat movie is coming out too but not sure. Brad Pitt has a movie called "World War Z" a zombie epidemic outbreak movie. I'm not so sure about this one yet. And more like; Iron Man, Captain America, prequel to 300?, wolverine and the list goes on.

A lot of people will be removed out of my life, meaning some people I don't talk to or shouldn't talk to will be removed out of my life. I need to surround myself with real people that have a positive outlook on life and want to do something with their lives. A lot of growth and changes will happen. All in all, 2013 will be my year!


Man of Steel Trailer:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVu3gS7iJu4

After Earth Trailer:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UIdBBROlUeM

World of War Z Trailer:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcwTxRuq-uk

Is Honesty The Best Policy?

I had a interesting conversation with one of my good friends; the topic of discussion was, if you are dating someone or considering dating someone that you are interested in, when is the time to be completely honest about already having a kid? or if you had a kid and you was dating someone would you tell them you have a kid or keep quiet until that person gets too involve with you? I personally want the person that I'm dating to tell me they have a child. That gives me the option or choice to decide if I want to continue to date the guy and the fact that he has a kid/s or just not continue to see the guy. At least give me the option to stay or go, don't wait until we are involve and BAM!!! I get hit with the "Oh by the way, I have a kid" I rather for someone to be completely honest about something so important as of having a child in their life.

From previous experiences, I was fortunately enough to know in the very beginning that the guy have a kid or kids, more than one experience. In the past, I chose to stay because I knew what I was getting myself into. But in my friend's defense, the person he knows had a reason as to why she didn't bring it up in the beginning, but I just think it's best to let that person know in the beginning you have a child. What are your thoughts, is honesty the best policy when it comes to revealing you have a child?

Texting Extremist

Lately I've been getting bombarded with text messages from my friends. Mainly about everyday things or how you doing kind of things. I have no problem with getting those types of text messages from time to time, not every single day or multiple messages of the same subject. If you are going to ask me those type of questions in much detail, I rather talk to you on the phone instead. I don't want to type up my entire life story in a text message, let alone you get a certain amount of characters per text message.

It just takes too long to type, abbreviate, and to explain in detail without taking too long to respond to the question. Plus my friends have the unlimited text messaging package which I can't afford, even if I had the funds to get it I wouldn't because it'll give my friends the excuse to text me more without even calling me once in awhile. I only text when I need to and when there is no way I can make a phone call. Sometimes we need that interpersonal conversation because it's personable, besides we are not robots. I don't even remember how some of my friends sound like, it's been a long time since I heard their voices.

What are your thoughts on text messaging too much?

Today's Agenda

On today's agenda I will be getting some frozen yogurt, every Sunday is typically frozen yogurt day. Usually Sunday's are my leisure days like; doing some laundry, running errands, cleaning the house, and study my materials for work. One of my guilty pleasures is frozen yogurt and cupcakes, since it's still summertime why not take advantage of eating frozen yogurt before summer ends.

I had a good night's sleep, watch the Sunday service on TV, I was able to vent on here yesterday and I wanted to treat myself for all the hard work I put into my final on Friday. So I'm taking advantage of my days off before the daily grind begins.

I hope everyone enjoy the rest of their weekend.

My Favorite Quotes

I've gathered a few good quotes that I really like and wanted to share.


"We are chameleons, and our partialities and prejudices change places with an easy and blessed facility." - Mark Twain

"It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed." - Theodore Roosevelt

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined." - Henry David Thoreau

"Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down." - Ray Bradbury

"The best executive is one who has sense enough to pick good people to do what he wants done, and self-restraint enough to keep from meddling with them while they do it." - Theodore Roosevelt

"If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain

"Talk to people in their own language. If you do it well, they'll say, "God, he said exactly what I was thinking." and when they begin to respect you, they'll follow you to the death." - Lee J. Lacocca

"Erroneous assumptions can be disastrous." - Peter Drucker

"The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them." - Albert Einstein


What's your favorite quote or quotes?

Sources:

http://www.famousquotesandauthors.com/quotes_by_topic.html
http://www.inspirational-quotes.info/
http://www.leadershipnow.com/

What's your preference? Myspace or Facebook?

This is just a curiosity, which one do you like better Myspace or Facebook?

I happened to have both Myspace and Facebook accounts and there are pros and cons to both. I signed up to Myspace in 2005 while attending college and all my classmates had a Myspace account. So I joined the Myspace bandwagon. The pros was you can customize your page with cool backgrounds and effects, also you can add your favorite videos or images anywhere on your page, not to mention music artists and playlist of songs of your choice.

It was also easier to add random people for the heck of it without jumping thru hurdles because you don't know them. With that being said, there are cons to having a Myspace account. The cons would be that you'll get spam friend requests or inbox messages frequently. I would get a lot of weird friend request from guys looking for a good time. creepy!!!

Also, there's the too much freedom of sexuality. What I mean by this is that you can get away with posting nudity or close to nothing pictures on your page without penalty. Things are more LEWD...and not to mention the profanity is so bad. There is no shame what people put on their Myspace accounts. One more thing I want to add, it takes forever to load to your homepage when you log in.

After dealing with all the nonsense with Myspace, I decided to give Facebook a try because a friend of mines created an account and it seemed a lot tamer. The cool thing about Facebook is it's much easier to find people because they use a first and last name username unless you have a different alias name. You can create events, write notes and write on people's wall with ease. Facebook added a system where you can post where you are going (places) and with whom (facebook friends).

The cons would be Facebook changes their format more frequently which can be annoying especially if you've gotten used to the standard structure. It seems like a lot of people are airing out their dirty laundry on Facebook. Their drama with their baby's mom/dad, drama with their boyfriend/girlfriend, how much they hate their boss etc. even all that being said, I'm on Facebook a lot more than Myspace because it's cleaner/less lewd, easier to use and I can connect with people more.

What's your preference? Myspace or Facebook?

Do you TEXT or talk on the PHONE more?

This is the old age question because technology has changed so much for people to communicate to each other more efficiently. Remember the payphones and pagers? they were the one stop technology to communicate with people. To use the payphone you'll have to have change (.25 cents) to make a call. I've never had a pager before but you'll get paged with a message to call the person back whether through a payphone, a landline phone or a bulky cell phone.

This topic came about when the news recently discussed how people text a lot more than using the phone nowadays. When text messaging came around I wasn't too knowledgeable about it at the time. So when my friends had text messaging they always want to text me but since I didn't have it because lack of knowledge I always use the cell to talk to them.

After learning that text messaging has become more popular over the years, I've decided to get a text message package on m cell phone. I began texting little by little, I STILL would rather call my friends and family than texting because I'm old fashion and rather have a interpersonal conversation, but sending a text once in a while is helpful especially when someone is at work or at an event and can't be disturb by chattiness on the phone. Some people that is starting out in the text message world may not get the short abbreviation meanings like (lol) laugh out loud, (omg) oh my gosh or whatever "G" word in replacement; (smh) shaking my head, (pm) personal message, (ttyl) talk to you later and the list goes on.

Let me know your thoughts on text messaging versus phone conversation.